Find your starting line.
It's safer to look out there than in here. That external focus is what stands between you and the question Where am I in this? — and it shows up in four ways.
Mind reading. The control illusion. The pattern loop. Speaking a second language. Most of us lean on one more than the rest. Twelve moments follow — for each, choose the response closest to what actually happens in you, not the one you'd like to be true.
Takes about four minutes. This is a self-location exercise, not an assessment, a diagnosis, or a substitute for working with a therapist.
Four last questions
Set the moments aside. In an ordinary week, how often does each of these happen?
Complete
That's all sixteen.
Your result shows where you were standing across every moment, which of the four showed up most, and the one question to start asking yourself.
You'll see it on the next screen, and I'll send you a copy to keep.
I'll email you a copy of your result, then occasional notes on the work of self-locating. Unsubscribe any time — every email has a link.
This is a place you're standing, not a kind of person you are.
All four, across your twelve moments
Every one of them showed up somewhere. That's true for everybody. Answer these again in three months and the order may well have moved.
Start there. Not with what they did — with where you were.
The four, in full
All four are external focus wearing different clothes. Worth knowing each one — you'll recognize the others soon enough.
Your starting line is not your destiny. It's where you begin.
From WAIT, Where Am I In This? by Dr. Lee Long